Meeting someone new is thrilling. Especially if you actually end up not deciding they're a total loser in the first 10 minutes of the first date. Every now and again, that magical thing happens where learning more about a person doesn't lead to you respecting them less, liking them less, or just thinking they're a flat-out weirdo; sometimes you like them more And sparks fly and all that jazz.
A second date follows, and a third, then a fourth. Then come the sleepovers and the dull as dishwater cardio exercises have been replaced with sex marathons! Before you've even realized it, you're in a new relationship.
On the hallmarks of a budding romance, and one of the most feared, is the meeting of the parents. Whether you're meeting your new sweetie's parents or you're introducing him or her to yours, it can all be rather stressful. But it can also be a great time for your lover to start feeling part of the family; provided the first meeting is done properly. Not sure how? Here are some tips to consider.
1. Don't kiss ass
If you are meeting you new sweetie's family there's no need to overdo the praise about his or her mother's amazing chicken cacciatore. While a sincere "this is wonderful!" is appreciated, anything over the top will be spotted in a minute. You'll be labeled a suck up and neither Mom nor Dad will trust you worth a darn.
Being labeled a brown-noser from the start is a very difficult label to get rid of. And chances are it will be a turn off for you new sweetheart too. If they are the one meeting your family for the first time, you might want to remind them that over the top compliment aren't necessary. If they do it anyway, even unconsciously, do them a favor and put a stop to it. Hopefully they'll do the same for you and you can both keep each other from making idiots of yourselves.
2. Listen. Carefully
All but the lamest of parents will want to have a talk with their child's latest sweetie. They want to see what makes you tick, but most of all they want to tell you about the family. When the conversation rolls this way, pay attention.
Perhaps the family spends their summers in Maine. So maybe the next time you see the parents, you just happen to have written down the name of a fabulous new restaurant in Bar Harbor. You'll come across as a good and interested listener which is a quality all parents want for this child's partner.
3. No rushing
The timing of this meeting is crucial. All parents will automatically assume that if you bring someone to meet them than this person is important to you and plays a significant role in your life. If that's not the case and you suspect your family is going to behave in a manner that is not in keeping with your new sweetie's importance to you, then you need to delay having him or her meet your family.
4. Be your better self
Everyone always says "just be yourself" when you meet someone's parents for the first time. This is the same advice you receive about a first date, and it's true, to a point. Although you should never misrepresent yourself, or flat out lie about who you are, you should put on your game face at first. Just a little.
You can chat about all fabulous things you saw and learned during that summer you spent in Puerto Rico; just don't tell them right now that you were there because you dropped out of school for a semester and ran away to the tropical locale with a sexy native. Be honest but be discerning. You know how to make yourself look good without lying; that should be your meet-the-parents plan in a nutshell.
A second date follows, and a third, then a fourth. Then come the sleepovers and the dull as dishwater cardio exercises have been replaced with sex marathons! Before you've even realized it, you're in a new relationship.
On the hallmarks of a budding romance, and one of the most feared, is the meeting of the parents. Whether you're meeting your new sweetie's parents or you're introducing him or her to yours, it can all be rather stressful. But it can also be a great time for your lover to start feeling part of the family; provided the first meeting is done properly. Not sure how? Here are some tips to consider.
1. Don't kiss ass
If you are meeting you new sweetie's family there's no need to overdo the praise about his or her mother's amazing chicken cacciatore. While a sincere "this is wonderful!" is appreciated, anything over the top will be spotted in a minute. You'll be labeled a suck up and neither Mom nor Dad will trust you worth a darn.
Being labeled a brown-noser from the start is a very difficult label to get rid of. And chances are it will be a turn off for you new sweetheart too. If they are the one meeting your family for the first time, you might want to remind them that over the top compliment aren't necessary. If they do it anyway, even unconsciously, do them a favor and put a stop to it. Hopefully they'll do the same for you and you can both keep each other from making idiots of yourselves.
2. Listen. Carefully
All but the lamest of parents will want to have a talk with their child's latest sweetie. They want to see what makes you tick, but most of all they want to tell you about the family. When the conversation rolls this way, pay attention.
Perhaps the family spends their summers in Maine. So maybe the next time you see the parents, you just happen to have written down the name of a fabulous new restaurant in Bar Harbor. You'll come across as a good and interested listener which is a quality all parents want for this child's partner.
3. No rushing
The timing of this meeting is crucial. All parents will automatically assume that if you bring someone to meet them than this person is important to you and plays a significant role in your life. If that's not the case and you suspect your family is going to behave in a manner that is not in keeping with your new sweetie's importance to you, then you need to delay having him or her meet your family.
4. Be your better self
Everyone always says "just be yourself" when you meet someone's parents for the first time. This is the same advice you receive about a first date, and it's true, to a point. Although you should never misrepresent yourself, or flat out lie about who you are, you should put on your game face at first. Just a little.
You can chat about all fabulous things you saw and learned during that summer you spent in Puerto Rico; just don't tell them right now that you were there because you dropped out of school for a semester and ran away to the tropical locale with a sexy native. Be honest but be discerning. You know how to make yourself look good without lying; that should be your meet-the-parents plan in a nutshell.
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