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onsdag 28 oktober 2009

How To Write Wedding Ceremony

By Dr. David Trumble

What if you could write your own wedding vows, what would you say? Well, amazingly, today you can do exactly that. You can write your own wedding vows full of your own special thoughts, feelings, and desires.

Why should you write wedding vows yourself?

There may be some restrictions. Good taste, dignity, and generally acceptable wedding vows still offer a wide range of options to write wedding vows yourself.

You can write your own wedding ceremony that are personal, special, and unique, or you can customize established sets of vows and pledges. By doing so, you can enjoy the benefits of truly personalized wedding vows.

The moment you exchange your vows is the moment when everything in your life draws into focus. This is a time of ultimate commitment and devotion. The exact values and words you express in this critical exchange will affect you for a life time.

When you write your own wedding ceremony yourself, you control the words and the expressions that represent your deepest feelings and commitments.

Your guests will be thrilled by the unique and highly personalized expressions when you write wedding vows yourself.

Each state in the United States has its own laws that control the marriage relationship and the wedding. In Ohio, for example, only registered officiate are permitted to officiate wedding ceremonies. These legal authorities certify marriages from a legal standpoint, however, your chosen customs, traditions, and heritage will also affect the ceremony.

Begin the process by visiting your county courthouse to secure your wedding license. Give this license to your officiate before the wedding. After the wedding your officiate will file your papers for you, and in about a month, you should receive a copy from your county or state government indicating that you are legally married.

From a legal stand point, all that is really required is the following: Officiate: "Do you ___ take ___ to be your lawfully wedded wife?" Groom: "I do." Officiate: "Do you ___ take ___ to be your lawfully wedded husband?" Bride: "I do."

Weddings are usually much more involved because guests and wedding party expect more. This gives you great latitude to write your own wedding ceremony yourself.

Weddings commonly include a formal precession for the arrival of the bride; the minister gives a short message, he asks the couple about their commitments, and the bride and groom repeat their vows. Finally, rings are placed on fingers and they kiss.

It is this ceremony that the minister works with the bride and groom to fashion meaningful and helpful statements that capsulate the love, commitment, and expectations of the marriage.

These five steps will make it easier to achieve your own wedding vows.

First, as you plan; make a list of the things that are really important to you. Write down the things you share - the values, priorities, and feelings.

Second, relate to your wedding setting. Who is going to be there? What are the surroundings like?

Third, look into your future. What kind of marriage do you want? What commitments will shape your life together?

At this point, draw all of your items together and sort them by their importance. These items may be used to write your own wedding ceremony, but you may find duplication or some items much more important than another.

Five: With assistance of your officiate or minister, create your personalized vows that fit the traditional wedding vow structures of pledged (or questions asked and answered) and vows (your declarations to each other).

Your aim is to express your personal values and commitments as clearly, and briefly as possible. Focus on the values and commitments, not on lengthy verbage. Your ceremony will be deeply personal when you write your own wedding ceremony.

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