When it comes to temper tantrums, for most of us, the priority is figuring out a way to get it to stop ASAP. There are many ways of avoiding tantrums, but this article will provide a couple of strategies that will help stop a temper tantrum that is already in full effect!
The first step to dealing with a tantrum, right in the middle of it, is to find a way to change the emotional state of your child. A temper tantrum is an extreme emotional response and no amount of words - as sound as they may be - is going to get through to your child. Don't try and reason with them. You need to change that emotional state before logic will even begin to resonate with your child.
To truly tame that tantrum quickly you need to change their physical expression of emotions. This works great on adults as well as children. Actually, if you do this first it will make it easier to deal with your screaming child with poise. Take a deep breathe and think about a recent happy event. Your body language will begin to model the emotional state of the memory.
Once your own emotional state is set for the tantrum (it is always better to be calm in the middle of your child's tantrums), it is time to move on to your child's behavior. To change the mood or the emotional state, you need to stop their current line of thinking. Mentally they may be in a loop that is replaying over and over the wrong they feel has been done to them. They are stoking the fire and you need to redirect their mental energies. Interrupt them with questions, games, or something in their environment. Give them a task to do. Give them a sense of responsibility. Get them to do something that changes their physical situation (look up at the clouds, look in the distance and see the color of a sign that is far away, watch a bird that is swooping by). Get them hold their breathe with you (you can breathe through your nose if you want!). Just get their body to change
Well, interruption is the start. Now just keep them distracted with other things - stories, responsibilities, whatever. Just keep the topic away from what set the whole thing off in the first place. They need some time to move on.
The first step to dealing with a tantrum, right in the middle of it, is to find a way to change the emotional state of your child. A temper tantrum is an extreme emotional response and no amount of words - as sound as they may be - is going to get through to your child. Don't try and reason with them. You need to change that emotional state before logic will even begin to resonate with your child.
To truly tame that tantrum quickly you need to change their physical expression of emotions. This works great on adults as well as children. Actually, if you do this first it will make it easier to deal with your screaming child with poise. Take a deep breathe and think about a recent happy event. Your body language will begin to model the emotional state of the memory.
Once your own emotional state is set for the tantrum (it is always better to be calm in the middle of your child's tantrums), it is time to move on to your child's behavior. To change the mood or the emotional state, you need to stop their current line of thinking. Mentally they may be in a loop that is replaying over and over the wrong they feel has been done to them. They are stoking the fire and you need to redirect their mental energies. Interrupt them with questions, games, or something in their environment. Give them a task to do. Give them a sense of responsibility. Get them to do something that changes their physical situation (look up at the clouds, look in the distance and see the color of a sign that is far away, watch a bird that is swooping by). Get them hold their breathe with you (you can breathe through your nose if you want!). Just get their body to change
Well, interruption is the start. Now just keep them distracted with other things - stories, responsibilities, whatever. Just keep the topic away from what set the whole thing off in the first place. They need some time to move on.
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Dealing with toddler 2 year old childrens temper tantrums is never fun. But there are more strategies and systems than listed above. Try this resource too: Contorlling Temper Tantrums
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